My conclusion is we need to work on ways of pooling and ploughing back our disabled energy. Not gaining energy to try to fit in or be productive according to ablist norms, but creating a virtuous spiral of energy which makes us less and less dependent on pretending to be 'abled'.
And my point here is that no body at all should have to pretend to be abled, because none of us are. Just like no one is really white.
The struggle against ablist supremacy is just another part of human liberation.